Mother’s Day is fast approaching, and what a blessed day for most. However, as a pastor for nearly 45 years, I have been keenly aware of those who’s grief has been reawakened on Mother’s Day. Some precious women have longed for children but could never conceive, and adoption was not an option. Others have lost children to death, either before birth or at various ages. Several sit in our pews sadly while we celebrate with great and appropriate joy over moms. I have often tried to see this time as a season of special ministry to special ladies.
I find it inspiring that while Jesus hung on His cross, that He reached out to care for His grieving mother in John 19: 25-27: “Now there stood by the cross of Jesus His mother, and His mother’s sister, Mary the wife of Clopas, and Mary Magdalene. When Jesus therefore saw His mother, and the disciple whom He loved standing by, He said to His mother, “Woman, behold your son!” Then He said to the disciple, “Behold your mother!” And from that hour that disciple took her to his own home.”
Mother’s Day can indeed be a bittersweet occasion for many, and churches have a unique opportunity to honor mothers while being sensitive to those who may experience grief or loss. Here are some thoughtful approaches:
- Inclusive Acknowledgment: During the service, recognize the diverse experiences of motherhood. For example, you could include statements like, “To those who have lost children, those who long to be mothers, and those who care for others in unique and different ways, we honor you.” One needs to pray for proper and encouraging words here, and no one need be pointed out.
- Special Prayer and/or Reflection: Offer a prayer or contemplation that acknowledges both the joys and challenges of motherhood. This can be a moment of cohesion and comfort for those grieving.
- Alternative Celebrations: Instead of singling out mothers to stand or receive gifts, consider celebrating all women who have played nurturing roles—whether as mothers, mentors, or caregivers.
- Commemoration Table or Candle Lighting: Create a space where attendees can light a candle or place a flower in memory of a lost child or loved one. This can be a quiet, healing gesture.
- Supportive Sermon: Seek the Holy Spirit to shape a sermon that highlights biblical examples of diverse motherhood experiences, such as Hannah’s longing for a child or Naomi’s grief and resilience.
- Community Care: Organize a support group or event prior to Mother’s Day for those who may find the day difficult. This can provide a safe space for sharing and healing.
These approaches can help create an atmosphere of compassion and inclusiveness, ensuring that everyone feels valued and supported. Perhaps these suggestions have ignited other options that would please God and fit your unique situation. However, always pray seeking wisdom from above, where Jesus sits at the right hand of our Father, and you will do well. Have a great Mother’s Day, and even greater woman’s day.
