In times of loss, people seem to disappear. We can wonder, “Where did everyone go?”
From the Grieving Heart:
This would be easier if it weren’t for the people around me. At least, that’s the way it feels.
Right after you left, people were everywhere. Tears. Hugs. “I’m so sorry.” “I’m here for you.” “Whatever you need.”
Where did they all go? They disappeared. Evaporated into thin air. Poof!
No one has called, texted, or emailed. No one has made the effort to check on me. No one has mentioned your name. When I’m with people, they pretend like nothing ever happened.
But something has happened. You’re gone, and you’re not coming back. My heart is broken. I’m in pieces. No one notices. They just step over the rubble and continue on.
I’m not saying that no one has been helpful. Some have. I’m not saying that everyone is insensitive. Some have been kind and caring. I’m saying that most people seem to want to wish this away, and the result is that I feel invisible, crushed, and abandoned.
Losing you was more than enough. I hadn’t counted on the betrayal of others.
Yeah, I’m angry.
Relationships never stay the same.
When loss strikes, it affects more than we may have realized at first. A strand of our web has been severed and now all of life is unsettled. Other strands get strained and stretched. Some might fray under the strain.
