8 Ways to Love Difficult People

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For we wrestle not against flesh and blood, but against principalities, against powers, against the rulers of the darkness of this world, against spiritual wickedness in high places.

How do you show love to someone who is difficult to love?

In these difficult times, reading through the Facebook newsfeed can make you wonder how to respond to comments in a way that shows love.

Scripture commands us to love others the way Jesus loved his disciples.

John 13:34-35 MSG says, “Let me give you a new command: Love one another. In the same way I loved you, you love one another. This is how everyone will recognize that you are my disciples—when they see the love you have for each other.”

What does that look like, practically?

  1. Remember, God loves each of us the same. He does not have favorites. If God loves each of us the same and shows His grace and mercy to us in spite of our shortcomings, how can we deny offering grace and mercy to others?
  2. As you consider difficult people, remember that our battle is not against flesh and blood. It’s a spiritual battle. “For we wrestle not against flesh and blood, but against principalities, against powers, against the rulers of the darkness of this world, against spiritual wickedness in high places.” Ephesians 6:12 KJV
  3. Remember that hurt people hurt others. Often, behaviors reflect the pain and hurt from the past. Take that into account when considering their behavior, words and attitudes.
  4. You don’t have to attend every argument you’re invited to. Sometimes, engaging in a debate would cause more harm than not engaging. Respond in love by not engaging.
  5. We exemplify our love for God when we extend love to others. Offer the best of yourself by extending the sacrificial love Jesus modeled. Go above and beyond by offering your best, your time or possibly your belongings.
  6. Your words are powerful. Choose life. “Death and life are in the power of the tongue: and they that love it shall eat the fruit thereof.” Proverbs 18:21 KJV. At times, walking away instead of expressing anger shows love.
  7. Meet people where they are. You may need to step outside of your comfort zone to meet the needs of another.
  8. Offer them forgiveness. Harboring bitterness, resentment and unforgiveness block healing and impact your relationship with God. Forgiveness empties your heart of poison that may accumulate if you choose not to forgive people who are difficult to love.

Jesus loves each of us where we are and calls us to love one another. He never said we are to only love those who are easy to love. That would be easy to do. He modeled His love for us by accepting us with all of our faults and weaknesses, then looking beyond to see our beauty.

How will you show love today to those who are difficult to love?

 

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