Friends are Like Shoes; Some Wear Out, Some Have Lasting Durability

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“When we consider the blessings of God—the gifts that add beauty and joy to our lives, that enable us to keep going through stretches of boredom and even sufferingfriendship is very near the top.”
—Donald W. McCullough, Mastering Personal Growth
friendsarelikeshoesWomen have an affinity for shoes more than men do most of the time. As I’ve gotten older I find that I’m one of those women who pays attention to what my feet wear when I leave the house. When I was in my twenties, shoes were just the last thing I threw on and mattered little.
I believe that shoes are quite similar to friendships. I just spent some time with an old friend last week. She knew me when I had my original last name and had to ask my mom for a ride to her house. We’ve walked through marriages, child birth, parenting challenges and spiritual revelations together. She doesn’t live in my town and months often pass between correspondences, but our friendship is such a familiar and comfortable fit, I can just pick it up and know instantly how it will feel. It is effortless and safe, like stepping slowly into a pair of fuzzy slippers.
Later in the week I spent quite a bit of time with a new friend. She is much younger but wants to learn about me. She is radiant, enthusiastic and makes me feel both wise and youthful. I am still trying this friendship on for size but I’ve worn it enough to commit to keeping it. It is still a little stiff and might pinch if I wear it too much all at once, but if I take the time to break it in over time, it has the potential to become a lasting favorite.
I’ve also had friendships that lasted only a season. They looked great and felt good at the time, but after a while they wore out, started to rub the wrong way, got lost or just felt less comfy. It can be hard to know when the time has come to let someone else move into the space this friendship has filled, and I have certainly held on to friends and shoes way past their intended season, occasionally inflicting unnecessary pain on myself or someone else.
And we can’t forget the well-worn flip flops we throw on to get the mail or run up to the post office. Those friends who are a part of our daily life; the ones we speak to nearly every day, sharing the trials and triumphs-big and small. It is easy to take them for granted even though they usually offer the most reliability and the biggest kick!
I’m so blessed that the closet of my life is filled with friends that bring color, style and comfort to me every day. How about you—what kind of friend are you? Are there “shoes” you need to donate to someone else, some that need a little extra attention (maybe a good shine), or are you attracted to a new pair but haven’t really tried them on yet?
Men, you need new shoes (and friends too), don’t be afraid to try a few on for size!  Don’t get cold feet; there is a world full of fabulous shoes just waiting for you.
Many will say they are loyal friends, but who can find one who is truly reliable? Proverbs 20:6

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